986 Haters

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Here are my Top 5 secrets to getting along well in a new crowd (whether its the PCA or the PTA, people are pretty much the same everywhere);

1. Make the first move. Be the first to say hi and introduce yourself.
2. Ask more questions about the other person than you answer about yourself. Ask about their car, how they bought it, why they bought that model, and what they like to do with it. Pay attention to what they actually say. Ask intelligent follow up questions that shows that you were paying attention. Don't say anything about yourself unless asked.
3. Mingle. Learn how to work a room (or a parking lot).
4. When asked about yourself, answer quickly with a funny anecdote or very short personal story. People will remember you better.
5. Smile a lot and laugh a bit (don't be too serious). Everyone likes being around someone who is happy and fun to be around.

Last, give it some time. It takes time to build relationships so attend several events and look to say hi to some of the same people each time. Before you know it, they will be looking to say hi to you too.