The Boxster "Affair"

[CHRISP357]

I don't know, kind of seems like there may be deeper problems and she's using the car as an easy outlet. I'm no therapist but I don't think any toy is worth risking the end of real love. You may have to let go for now. It will be heart breaking every time you see someone else with one but remember, sure, they have a wife but you have a Porsche!

[Wulf190]

Well said Chris I see what you did there.

[Jinx]

Hi wulf,

A suggestion
Google Porsche Club Of America. (PCA)
Join the local chapter Worth the small
Amount of dues. invite the wife to
A social event. In the spring take her along
To a picnic or sign you both up for a
Car Control Clinic. You can both use the
same car. Nothing special needs to be done
Really to the car other than a general safety
inspection. Just remove lose items in the car.
No helmets required. Very small fee to enter.
I bet the local club would
Very glad to help. Tell her you
Signed her up for CCC until the night
Before.

Bill

[Wulf190]

A good thought Bill. I am discovering some of these things as I go along here in my first few months. We have a fantastic private track south of town that I have really wanted to check out. I know the PCA here does some stuff there. Problem with the wife would be first just getting her INTO the car...which has presented a hurdle such that I don't quite understand. My unilateral decision making process certainly has something to do with that fact I am thinking.

It would have been so much easier to just trade for something else and be done with it, but the longer I have spent behind the wheel, the less likely I have found myself to do that.

Here's all of the arguments and counters so far....

"it's a bad winter car"...actually it's been a great cold weather car so far
"it's expensive to own"....actually it seems like it will be less than or equal to my last car
"insurance will kill you"...actually it's 20% less than what I was paying
"you can't even work on it"...actually it's really well engineered for that
"you don't need a race car"....it's NOT a race car!!
"there's only 2 seats"...but tons of storage space and lots of leg room and I don't have kids
"it's expensive"....it's less than a poor quality compact car
"the depreciation will kill you"....however it works out, it will cost me less in depreciation than my last 3 cars have.
"you have to use premium gas"....it gets great mileage
"tire cost alone will kill you"....they are likely to be replaced in pairs, and I don't drive much

the list goes on.

M.

[PatM]

Great reads,
Laughed and cried. I too have the Affair. Fortunately my wife understands
2000 S speed Yellow

[Jinx]

I once knew a man eighty plus years old. We both
Horseback rode. Horseback riding has certain dangers.
Anyway the gentleman's wife was always on his case
About riding. Finally she gave him a choice
It was her or riding. He chose riding. She left
But did come back after a time. I danced with
A women who's husband left her because of
Our dancing. He never came back. We're still
Very good friends. She told me she discovered
He wanted to control her, and never did love
Her. And he didn't want her to enjoy the things
She enjoyed. We all make choices.

I have found if I don't do something
That is important and I enjoy (the boxster)
I always remember it and ask what if.
Enjoy the boxster. I plan on using my
Except in the worst of weather year round.

In the spring or sooner. Tell your wife
The Porsche needs driven. I'am going to Starbucks.
You want to come ?

Good luck,

Bill

[Wulf190]

I knew it might benefit me to "seek some guidance" from those who know. Thanks bill. I am sure this is something that one just has to "work through" I would have taken you up on the Starbucks offer but I already went out this morning for one and took the completely unnecessary route with the winding up and down S curve on the way. But with no passenger there's no one or nothing to hold the cup except me. I have simply adapted with a better coffee tumbler :dance:

[BruceH]

Originally Posted by Wulf190

Just spent an hour up at the car wash doing it all by hand. Man those wheels are a PITA to clean, but they are the exact ones I wanted on there.

I have the same wheels and absolutely love them, it took me a year to find a nice used set so consider yourself lucky that they came with the car! I bought a little brush from Walmart that fits perfectly between the openings and I use Griots wheel cleaner. Spray it on, let it sit a few minutes then follow up with the brush and a soft car wash sponge. I get mine done rather quickly and the wheels make it all worth it every time I stare at them

Originally Posted by Wulf190

I knew it might benefit me to "seek some guidance" from those who know. Thanks bill. I am sure this is something that one just has to "work through" I would have taken you up on the Starbucks offer but I already went out this morning for one and took the completely unnecessary route with the winding up and down S curve on the way. But with no passenger there's no one or nothing to hold the cup except me. I have simply adapted with a better coffee tumbler :dance:

Get a pair of these cup holders BMW Cup Holders, Porsche Cup Holders, Ultimate Cup Holder - Cupholders / Drink Holders for BMW 3 5 7 Series, Boxster 911 Z4 Mercedes Audi NSX other fine cars. They are a little expensive but well worth it! I just got back from Starbucks

Your wife is probably thinking mid life you know what. She thinks you are going to run off with some 20 year old with your gold chains etc Take the advice of joining PCA and go to some events. There are usually happy hour events, lunch and of course driving events. She will soon see that Porsche people are just normal people who have a strong love of their cars. She will meet some great people including women who also love their cars. My wife was not happy at first either, now she says "let's go for a drive!" She loves the sound of the exhaust when ever we go through a tunnel, as do I

Good luck and welcome to the forum! There is a lot of excellent information and advice here and the people are great!

[Retroman1969]

Originally Posted by Luv2Box

Many years ago I owned a Harley Sportster that I bought brand new when I was single. It had custom gold leaf and pinstriped paint with the Harley Eagle sissy bar. I put chrome drag pipes on it and rode it to Mexico and had leather hand tooled saddle bags with the Harley Eagle made for it. I loved riding it and made up things to do just to get on it.
After a couple of years owning it I got married and my new wife didn't like the bike. It was too loud and too dangerous for her and she wouldn't go near it. I finally gave in and sold the bike and bought her a nice ring with the money from the sale.
Our marriage didn't last and now she's gone and so's the bike and I sure do miss that bike.

Originally Posted by CHRISP357

I don't know, kind of seems like there may be deeper problems and she's using the car as an easy outlet. I'm no therapist but I don't think any toy is worth risking the end of real love. You may have to let go for now. It will be heart breaking every time you see someone else with one but remember, sure, they have a wife but you have a Porsche!

PS: these had me in tears!