How to tell my wife that I purchased a Boxster...

[Topless]

Not saying I would ever actually do this but...
"So honey, this car came up for sale and I went to take a look at it (shows pic). It in great shape and a fair price. I went over our finances and we are in pretty good shape right now. I think I want to buy it. What do you think?"

1. She says "Looks nice honey, why don't you get it." Crisis over.
2. She says "No f***ing way you are bring that home. We are 3 months behind on the light bill" Put it up for adoption fast.

Although the timing of events might be a little ummm, out of sequence, you did technically include her in the decision process. They NEED to be included. To just spring it on her is a Lorena Bobbit offense.

[AKnowles]

Ok, the short story version goes like this... When I met my wife I was without a motorcycle and missing it a lot. My wife helped me find a mint Kawasaki Concours with 1500 miles on it. Only paid about $2000 for it. Amazing deal. Later I sold it and bought a 1996 BMW R1200RT then bought a K1200RT so we could ride together. That lasted two rides. Finances were getting tight so I sold it. A few months later I sold the RT too. I was bummed. The next year I bought $600 in lottery tickets and won a R1200GS and upgraded it for $2500 to a 2009 R1200RT. I was in heaven. When my wife lost here job I sold it and downsized to a 2005 R1200RS. When my car engine had a meltdown I sold the bike to fix my car. A year l was getting frustrated and needed something to help relieve the tension. I was thinking a motorcycle and my wife was ok with that but bummed she could not participate with it. I suggested lessons and her own motorcycle.

While heading down that path, my wife suggested buying a roadster like a miata, z3, or z4. We actually test drove the z4, but with the electronic steering assist and steptronic transmission it didn't feel right to me and it smelled of the previous owners dog. My wife could not stay in the car. On our way through the showroom she saw a Porsche boxster in violet blue metallic. The words "my favorite color" & "awesome" bubbled out of her along with her bouncing around it joyfully. So we test drove it. I liked it, she loved it, so we bought it. Her favorite color, but my daily driver and "project car". I like a vehicle I can work on and the boxster is an easy car to work on.

Moral is ... If your wife loves you and you love her then there is no problems. Compromise may be needed at times, but if there is love there is understanding and no need to hide the things you buy to help you cope with the world or make life more enjoyable.

Just remember the car seats two. Tell her you bought it as a means of sharing special moments and sights together. Take her on a weekend ride occasionally with the top down. Enjoy it. Together.

[rondocap]

But definitely tell her. I only waited a couple of days while I found the right time to say it, and it turned out ok.

The relationship is more important, but we men are stupid. (That's what they tell us anyway, it may be true)

I told her - at least it's only a secret car, and not a secret girlfriend!

[tonycarreon]

pre-discussions don't always work either...

a few weeks after selling the 944:
i said "i think i want to get a boxster."
his response was "if that's what you want."
i bought a boxster.
i'm still hearing how "we" never discussed it.

[Deserion]

Thankfully my dad never had this issue. My mom surprised him with a Porsche for Father's Day last year.



Then this year she gets the itch, and buys one for herself.



Needless to say, they both love their P-cars.

[V-Rod]

Here are a few scenarios that I could choose to reveal the purchase of my Boxster to my wife.

BTW, Do realize that she has suggested that I sell my bike and buy a Porsche a long time ago, because she will never ever get on a motorcycle.

Method #1:

Dear Xxxxx,

For the past month I have been trying to find the right time to inform you that I am having an affair. I still love you but just needed something extra in my life. She is very petite and dark skinned of european decent. She looks as good from the rear as she does from the front and prefers to be topless when we are together. We just kinda fell for each other when we first met. The first time I was inside of her and felt how responsive she was I new it was real by the way she purred. Her skin feels like some of your very finest European leather gloves. Then I thought how great it would be if you could be included in a night out with us. She is up for it anytime as am I. I hope you understand my needs as I do not want this relationship to get in the way of what we have. You know I work hard and make sure that you and the kids have all you need. This may be a good thing that we can enjoy together on a regular basis. Her name is Porsche (Porsha) and I am sure you will love her when you meet her. She will most likely have her top on at this time of the year, so no need to get your hair frazzeled upon first meeting her.

Method #2:

On Christmas Eve around 4:00 A.M. I quietley go out and swap her Odyssey in the garage with the Boxster and put a bow on it with the roof down. I bought three 1:24th scale diecast Boxster models to put in my three boys Christmas stockings. When they all realize that they all have the same car and each of them is a different color, I will tell them that the blue one is my favorite one and that is what I asked for from Santa. But I will say oh well he got mixed up and gave each of you these cars instead. As the morning progresses and one of them venture into the garage. I would love to see the face on him. They would come and try and get me off the couch to see what's in the garage, I would laugh it off and continue watching TV. Then my wife would see it first and say WTF (silently in her head of course as she never swears in front of the kids). I would then proceed to to thank her for the awesome christmas gift.

Method #3:

After the kids find their little Boxster models in their Christmas stockings, I tell me yougest son (5yr) that I like his blue one the best. I will tell him it looks just like the one in the magazine in the bathroom that mommy bought for me last summer and that is my dream car to have someday. While my wife and daughter are in Japan, I bring the Boxster home to work on it a bit. Just before my wife heads back home, I send her an email with a few pics and break the news to her that I purchased an awesome Porsche Boxster.

Method #4:

I am going to be away on business for almost all of January and February. I just landed a windfall of great work. The next two months are going to be great months for income and we are paid up on nearly every one of our bills through February right now. During the last week of February I will be returning home and begin having her choose and help design the new kitchen that I told her I would build this spring.(I just completed the bathroom and living room remodel.) I will also mention that I bought the Porsche Boxster that I have wanted for a long time. The spring, summer and fall of 2013 should be a lot of fun and I will most likely ride my bike less which is statistically safer.

[jb92563]

Are you kidding!!!

You won't get any respect from someone when you are kissing their ass!

Simply tell her you needed to buy this car, because it makes you happy.

Tell her you'd appreciate her support and understanding in your time of need.

If she does not, then its time to kiss that partnership goodbye and move on.

If you've done something stupid and got yourself in financial difficulty because of it, then she should kiss your ass goodbye and move on.

Relationships are equal parts of give and take, sometimes you need to take, but be prepared to give as well. Find out what dream of hers you can make happen and follow though on it.

Action speaks louder than words!

My significant other respects me for my go for it attitude and loves that I have the cajones to make dreams come true for myself and her.
{No I'm not rich, just know whats important in life}

[V-Rod]

Told her today as we were hanging out watching the kids play with all their new gifts. She was absolutely OK with it as long as our plans for this spring and the kitchen remodel are unaffected.

Sometimes I worry about things I needn't.

[Perfectlap]

Just curious...but why didn't you just tell her that you were going to check out a Boxster in the first place?
Sounds like you are a master of conflict avoidance...only problem is that there is no such thing in a marriage. Well maybe for sneaking a trip to the bar with the guys but buying a car is a bit harder to fall by the way side.

This topic reminds me of that saying about buying a Porsche that needs work: you can pay now, you can pay later but you will pay.
Facing the music is something you can ever really escape with womens.

[vath2001]

You don't have to tell her. Just park it at your girl friends house.
And if you feel the need to explain to your girl friend why you bought a Boxster, you need a new girl friend!

[opus69]

My wife was pretty understanding. She said I could have a girlfriend or a sportscar. When I got the Boxster and she wanted to drive it. I said what if I got a girlfriend instead of the Boxster, would you expect me to share?