How to tell my wife that I purchased a Boxster...

[V-Rod]

Originally Posted by linklaw

Do what I did when I bought a TR4a a few years ago. I parked it in the garage and when my wife came home she said "is that a new car in the garage?" I said "of course not, we have had that one for three or four months." She said "OK" and that was the last I heard of it. The next day I told her about just getting the car and how my daughter and I had a good laugh when she fell for my line. Luckily my wife understands my love of cars and never gets upset when I bring home a new one.

Yeah, I think that is great and I expect that I am going to share the same experience. My wife also knows that I love sports cars and Harley's. When she met me, I had an absolutely mint Triumph TR-6 that I rebuilt from the ground up. I sold it a couple of years later because we were trying to buy a house, start a family etc.

This purchase was the last big toy that I have wanted for quite some time. She even purchased the May 2012 copy of Automobile Magazine for me while we were at the beach in Maine back in June. It has been in our bathroom stack of reading since. See HERE

So when she wanted a Jeep Wrangler this past summer, she got it! I then sunk about $2k into it and made it much nicer. We had an '06 Honda Odyssey approaching 100k miles and it need about $2000 worth of maintenance. She wanted a new 2012 Touring model she got it. I gave her the garage in order to keep her new Honda in mint condition. I rented a garage bay to keep my bike and seasonal stuff in. I do not squawk when I see a new Coach or Louis Vuitton handbags in the closet. Woman find solace in having many bags, shoes, jewelry, etc. I like jeans, tee shirts, bikes and now my Boxster.

Heck all my clothes, bike, Boxster, computers, TV etc. costs about half of what her Odyssey costs. So in my house it is not all about me. I just made another impulse purchase and the timing was not right with our busy schedules.

[Jedi]

I think you send her an email when she's in Japan. Tell her you got her a surprise Christmas present and she has to wait till she's home to see it. Hopefully she has a good sense of humor and realizes that it is for the both of you and the both of you will have lots of fun with it.

[dbear61]

Reason #37 that I never re-married: no wifely repurcussions for having an unexpected winning bid on e-bay.

However, if I were married, unless money is no concern at all, there would have been numerous discussions about this as a possible purchase, probably including practicality, affordability, logistics of parking and dialogue about vehicles in the family in general.

Major Warning For All: I'm about to unload heavy on VRod over this.

But you didn't do that, and you've hidden the purchase so far, which tells me you think she'll be angry about it. Yeah, it's a Boxster, but that's both stupid and selfish. Everything else about what you did for her vehicles is rationalizing your decision to do this without her knowing.

Man up and tell her everything without "I did this for you " or "I paid that for your car". If she's pissed, it's not because you bought it but because you didn't discuss it beforehand. You're a complete ass-hat for not doing that.

IMHO, I can't believe somebody that stupid makes enough money to buy any Boxster or be married long enough for this to be a problem.

Seriously, dude, marriage is supposed to be a partnership, and you ran rogue, then blamed it on her. FAIL.

If you can't share this with her ASAP, you aren't meant to be married to her. I'm already in the camp of "you are an iditot", but if she can't accept what you did, I'll also join the camp of "neither one of you deserves the other."

And if your wife understands and accepts, it would be reason # 37 why I should be re-married.

DBear

[litespeedp]

Thought I might have a potential problem back when I was married to her and I bought an Alfa GTV coupe.I bought a red Alfa Spider Veloce for her and all was well! Both were manual transmission and she was good with that.