[JayG]

Hang in the Tim. Our thoughts are with you
Do a lot of checking on any assisted living place. My mother-in-law has advanced Alzheimer's and we could no longer care for her and we found what we thought was a really good board and care. To make a long story short, they did the minimum needed for her sustenance. They were big on having holiday parties with the residents and their families . A few hours after everyone had left and they were cleaning up, she fell and broke her hip as they were not paying attention. She was 89 at the time.

After she got out of the hospital and rehab we moved her to a smaller facility, only 18 residents. She is now thriving and looks and feels great. Big difference when they love the residents and treat them as family rather than a source of revenue

Btw, if you dad served in a war, there may also be VA benefits available to help care for him as well as other state benefits