thanks for the BMW suggestions, but I don't think a BMW would be as reliable or as cheap to repair as a Acura or Lexus.
Test drove some Acura RDXs.... frankly, they're ugly, and not nearly as nice inside as the Lexus, more truck like. All the forums said the same, even Acura forums said the Lexus was nicer inside.
Went with the Lexus RX330. It's not "fast" but it's a SUV, wasn't expecting it to be fast. Haven't had it long but for gas mileage I get low 20s and she gets high teens so it's not too bad on mpg. All of her friends have been jealous and call her "spoiled" which has made her happy and
when she's happy everyone's happy 
