I concur with BYpro: Do some reading.
That's what I did... and chose to not settle for inexpensive ****************ty spacers that would cause the very problems described. No cheap Chinese metal... hub centric was necessary... proper bolts sizes... and quality metal and machining.
I paid ~$270 for my set of four spacers. ECS brand. I did my research (READING) and remain satisfied with my decision.