haha well I fixed the problem.
The quick answer is to double check lightbulbs before you install them!
after tracing the head light wires all the way back to the head light checking each connector, I isolated the problem to the headlight unit. I then checked the light bulb and it was shot!
I had my oil changed by my mechanic ( lift is way easier than crawling under the car ) and as i was pulling out he noticed the problem with the headlights and had a pack of bulbs so he changed it and no change. he did not have time to further check the problem and i assumed the bulb was good so the only other thing i could think of was the drl kit .....
so i now have no drl
and working lights :P
and an extra drl kit ^.^