Skeefy,
Thanks for providing those measurements.
There is a lot of chatter on various boards about how 009 pins should be used on 2001- cars all the way around. Apparently, people are having a hard time inserting the 010 pins into the black connector housing that plugs into the dash on the later cars.
Now, the fact that you are calling the 009 a male connector is very puzzling to me.
As for sourcing these connectors, I was able to find the connectors that linklaw provided a link for above in the Mouser catalog, and it can be ordered in small quantities.
45750-1112 Molex Terminals